Wednesday, November 17, 2010

A year

One year ago today, my husband got on a plane to go bury his best friend Dave. News of his death was shocking to the both of us. The day he died, we'd just gotten home from a Thrive "Family Feud" night which Robby had made the game board for and it went flawlessly! People had so much fun, we came home so happy, then Robby got a call from our friend Daniel. Robby said sadly, "Dave's dead". Our life hasn't been the same since. He left behind a wife and 3 young children. He was 31 years old.

Driving to Bakersfield last weekend, we were 1/4 mile away from a fatal crash. Sitting on a 2 lane California Highway, we saw a helicopter land on the street in front of us to airlift injured people to the hospital. One car swerved in front of the car coming in the opposite direction and was hit. An 81 year old man did not survive the crash. Death is real and it can happen at any moment.

A few weeks ago, Robby and I saw D.A. Carson speak on "Why does God allow suffering." I wanted to share some of what was discussed that evening because, none of us know when our death will happen. Carson in his opening statements said that "if you live long enough, you will suffer. If you don't, someone will be bereaved". Cancer, heart attack, car accident, losing a child, dying to a bullet... we all know someone who's gone through it or is going through it. The worst thing is to pretend the problem isn't there. CS Lewis said "100% of us will die." Grief is something we have to deal with in this life, it's sad and very emotional.

What do you think happens after we die? Genesis 3:19 says "For you were made from dust, and to dust you will return."

The reality of death can make people uneasy, people don't want to think about it's finality. The truth is, a man's soul will always be restless till he finds rest in God. Psalm 32:1 says "My soul finds rest in God alone, my salvation comes from Him." For me, I have peace about death, because my hope isn't in this life alone. 1 Thessalonians 4:13 says "we do not grieve like those who have no hope". Through Jesus Christ, we can live for eternity in heaven with Him. There's heaven to be gained and hell to fear.

Did you know that God suffers? His Son died on the Cross, carrying the burden of our sin so that we could be with God! We know too that Christ also suffered 1 Peter 2:24 "He himself bore our sins in his body on the tree, that we might die to sin and live to righteousness. By his wounds you have been healed."

I know that there was a Creator God who made this earth. Romans 1:20 "For since the creation of the world God's invisible qualities--his eternal power and divine nature--have been clearly seen, being understood from what has been made, so that men are without excuse."

Our kids had an art project due today which had them collect leaves of different colors. There are so many different shapes of leaves, different shades of leaves, looking at something so simple as leaves becomes so complex when you think about how those leaves came to be when we stop and look :) Psalm 46:10 Be still, and know that I am God; I will be exalted among the nations, I will be exalted in the earth." ... "Be still, and know that I am God!" He wants us to look in awe at what He has made and give Him glory for it. Romans 1:25 "They exchanged the truth about God for a lie, and worshiped and served created things rather than the Creator—who is forever praised. Amen."

We won't have all the answers to all our questions, we can't see things from God's perspective this side of heaven, faith is required. We have faith knowing God is sovereign (in control, supreme authority) over everything. Hebrews 11:1, 3, 6 "Now faith is being sure of what we hope for and certain of what we do not see. By faith we understand that the universe was formed at God's command, so that what is seen was not made out of what was visible. And without faith it is impossible to please God, because anyone who comes to him must believe that he exists and that he rewards those who earnestly seek him."

You need to be sure too that you have repented of your sins and have surrendered your life to Christ because we know "Not everyone who says to Me, 'Lord, Lord,' will enter the kingdom of heaven, but he who does the will of My Father who is in heaven will enter. "Many will say to Me on that day, 'Lord, Lord, did we not prophesy in Your name, and in Your name cast out demons, and in Your name perform many miracles?' "And then I will declare to them, 'I never knew you; DEPART FROM ME" Matthew 7:21-23.

Another thing that Carson mentioned is "dying well". A friend of theirs was slowly passing away over a period of months and through her suffering, people were praying for miracles, that she'd be healed, but we know sometimes it's not God's Will that all will be healed. Having peace with that and being able to help reconcile others to God is better than questioning "why me". Paul says in 2 Corinthians 12- that he suffered. He prayed 3 times for God to take away his "thorn in the flesh" but his affliction wasn't removed, instead God said "My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” And Paul's response was "Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ’s power may rest on me. 10 That is why, for Christ’s sake, I delight in weaknesses, in insults, in hardships, in persecutions, in difficulties. For when I am weak, then I am strong."

We all know in our hearts the undeniable truth, we can try to excuse it, come up with ways to doubt it or make up theories. Romans 1:18 For the wrath of God is revealed from heaven against all ungodliness and unrighteousness of men, who suppress the truth in unrighteousness, because that which is known about God is evident within them; for God made it evident to them."

I don't know when Christ is going to return, I know it's been 2,000 years since he walked on this earth but the Bible says 1 Thessalonians 5:2 "for you know very well that the day of the Lord will come like a thief in the night" and it'll be too late to proclaim Him as Lord of your life. What are you waiting for? Psalm 39:4 "Show me, O LORD, my life's end and the number of my days; let me know how fleeting is my life."

We need faith, but we also need to turn from sin, repenting (a 180). 1 Peter 2:21 "For God called you to do good, even if it means suffering, just as Christ suffered for you. He is your example, and you must follow in his steps." Carson spoke about how people say "it's my cross to bear", which really was an honor, being counted worthy of suffering for Christ. For I consider that the sufferings of this present time are not worthy to be compared with the glory which shall be revealed in us." Romans 8:16-18

I know that this isn't the last time we'll experience death and grief. This has been a tough year for us. Robby lost his best friend who was like a brother to him throughout High School and was the best man at our wedding.

I don't want to have regrets of not sharing the truth with people. I don't know when my life here on earth will end. Ephesians 5:16 says to "Make the most of every opportunity" If something I've written stirs something in your heart and you'd like to talk about it, please don't hesitate to call me. I'd love to discuss whatever is on your mind.

James 4:14 "you do not even know what will happen tomorrow. What is your life? You are a mist that appears for a little while and then vanishes."

PS If you see Robby around, give him a big hug, a phone call, invite him out to lunch, you can be a great friend to him. His birthday is this coming Tuesday, November 23rd (it won't appear on your facebook pages) He'll be 31.

The photo is the last one of them taken together the last day we saw Dave alive.
Robby and Dave with their sons, Thanksgiving, 2008

Thursday, October 23, 2008

A New site!

Hi everyone!
I started a new blog to keep track of the things I'm learning! It'll sort of be like an online journal of the thoughts on what I've been reading about and learning from various places. You can find the site at:

Sunday, October 19, 2008


We thank the Lord for answered prayers!

This week has been big for our family :)
Tuesday morning, I had 4 wisdom teeth pulled. I've heard so many horror stories of friends experiences! My Mom and sister Holly came for two days to help take care of our family and we were so blessed by that! I am so thankful for all the prayers received as I'm feeling great with very little pain! Tuesday I have my 1 set of stitches removed.

Last Friday marked a huge milestone! Christian celebrated his 1st year of life! We are do thankful for the 2 children Gods given us to care for. He's now 23 pounds and has started to walk! He says "Mama, Dada, more, up and Ab (Abby) :) He can also sign "more, all done and please".

In other family news....
My father, Don, underwent heart valve replacement surgery 1 year ago and is doing great! We also received word, my sisters husband arrived home Sunday from his 15 month tour in Iraq! This was his 3rd tour.

Continued prayer for Robby's dad Greg is appreciated. His latest bone marrow biopsy showed no change. His Doctor started him on chemo, every 3 weeks for the next 15 weeks.

Things at the Millsaps are always busy! We continue to serve the Lord at Compass Bible Church and find ourselves there numerous times a week and loving it!

Abbys growing up so fast. She's going to be 3 in January and trying more and more to tell us when she needs to use the potty! :)

The kids are up and running so it's time to end this blog!

Friday, September 19, 2008

Baby Items

Hello friends!

Some of you may have a new baby, are expecting a new baby, or, know of someone who could use some items! I currently have these things I'd love to borrow out so others can use!

Within Arms Reach Side Co Sleeper crib-

Boppy cloud pattern-

Bathtub that fold down for easy storage- Jen Gray

Black Baby Bjorn-

Baby swing Laura Ashley pattern-

Infant Car Seat Laura Ashley pattern-

Extra Infant Car Seat base- Chiara Hawley

Toy mobile- Katy McCrory

Bouncy Seat Fisher Price- Katy McCrory

Nursing shawl and burp clothes- Katy McCrory

If you'd like to borrow something listed above, please just leave me a comment or send an email to!

Thursday, September 4, 2008

Race for the Cure

My friend Katy and I have signed up to do the 5k for the breast cancer run/walk! That's 3.11 miles ;) It's in Newport Beach on Sunday, September 28th! The race we're doing starts at 9:45 and you can sign up to race or donate funds to help support the cause! You're also allowed to bring a stroller along! The kids will be joining me!

Breast cancer is a cause that's very dear to my heart. My next door neighbor and I were very close. She gave me lots of motherly advice, spent lots of time with me when I was a child, and encouraged me in so many ways. I was the Junior bridesmaid in her wedding :) She passed away from breast cancer at 38 when I was 11 years old. Her name was Abbe, who we named our daughter after :)

My fundraiser link if you're so inclined!
Katy's fundraiser link!

Monday, September 1, 2008

I'm still here :)

I do apologize for not blogging more :( I haven't had a lot to write about other than that we're still here! The kids are getting big, Christian's 10 months and has 8 TEETH and Abby's 2 1/2 and very talkative! Robby's working hard still for our family. Being self employed, he's busy being our family provider. As for me, I've gotten involved in helping with the Care ministry at church this Summer and love being able to serve our church family! We're gearing up for the Thrive marriage ministry to start again this Fall! Our small group we lead is already full with 10 couples and 25 children (3 of those haven't arrived just yet!). Robby's still loving serving whenever he can on the worship team. We're looking forward to men and women's Bible study starting up next week too! We both are attending church retreats this Fall too!

We still have Disneyland passes through March and, recently joined the YMCA! I've loved taking the water aerobics course! (I've gone 4 times in 6 days!)! It's been 3 1/2 years since I stepped foot in a "GYM". Robby's swimming laps too on his lunch breaks!

We are still praying fervently for Robby's Dad who has been battling stage 4 cancer since diagnosed in May. The Doctors are still trying to find the right medication to treat all his symptoms. Please remember to keep the Millsap family in your prayers.

Also, Robby and I have joined and update that often with what we're up to! If you join, let us know! :)

Tuesday, June 17, 2008

Latest update on Robby's Dad

Last week he went in to his Doctor in Bakersfield who recommended they remove his spleen and then start chemotherapy. He's been diagnosed with Stage 4 B cell lymphoma.

Greg decided to a second opinion and switched Doctors! This new Doctor works at a Cancer Crisis center and has a whole team he works with! The other Doctor commuted between hospitals, was a hematologist and not a specialist in cancer, and he hadn't seen many cases like Dad's.

The new Doctor is treating Greg with with a chemical treatment to try and get his body to start producing blood again. They are hoping to see results this week! Once all his treatments are completed, he'll start chemo.

The first day of treatment (Wed. the 11th) the Doctor had to stop because Greg's body started shaking and when they'd ask him questions, he was unresponsive and wouldn't answer them. He received half the treatment he needed and went back again Thursday for the second half. This time, there wasn't a bad reaction, which is a praise!

Greg had his blood drawn yesterday (Monday, the 16th) and we should know the results tomorrow (Wednesday, the 18th) to see if his blood level has increased.

Thank you for your continued prayers and concern for Greg.